Remembering and Protection

Questioner: I tell you myself that yes, whatever it takes for me to return to self, I want you to push my button as well. Whatever it takes.

Bashar: All right, we will get our finger ready. Um, as far as we believe we heard that word before.

Questioner: What words?

Bashar: It’s translated.

I knew that. But I want to ask you about that. What is it in me that is in the way of me remembering? I asked to remember the suggestions that you are given.

Bashar: Many times not remembering has a purpose. You are given suggestions not to remember. There are many reasons that you yourself would actually agree with for forgetting. They’re possibly thankful.

Not so much that—some of it is simply that in being made to ostensibly on one level forget, then you are allowed to simply be your natural self as your life unfolds.

And that other concept, another experience, doesn’t inhibit or impede your ability to naturally move ahead spontaneously.

Another reason is that there are individuals on your planet that would have the ability to access information that would not be to the best benefit of your world for them to access.

And so you are made to forget so that those individuals on your planet cannot access the experience you have had, for they would use it in a detrimental and negative way to me, to your people in general.

Questioner: Who are those people?

Bashar: They are autonomous factions of your world that are recognized often by what you would call clandestine activities. That didn’t translate. That didn’t translate. CIA. Thank you. CI mentioning CIA people like they could they could access my memory.

Bashar: They have the technology to do so. Oh, and thus many of the experiences are cloaked with suggestions that you will not remember so that that information of that experience cannot be used in a detrimental way on your fun. Which cover? Yes. Yes. Bad boy. very looking at they can tell that there is information therein. They can also tell that it has in some sense been encrypted or encoded in a way that they cannot access. They got that technology from the grave though, right? And it was developed in other ways but yes some of it came from some of those interactions. Yes. Okay. So, anything else? Number one. Yeah. Yes. So, okay. Are are these still mostly the grays that I’m interacting with in general?

Bashar: Although there are others, you have many other different kinds of connections as well. We will go into them at some other time. The and right as we have already mentioned, but there are a few others as well. Okay. One moment. One moment. One moment. You are also one of us in our contemporary time frame.

Questioner: Thank you, Michelle. I asked you that before and you didn’t have that information. I asked you what do I do on your plan? Now is the time. M I Yeah, I I’m doing you.

Bashar: Now is the timing for you to awaken to more of that connection. Okay. Does this serve you? Does this serve you? Does this serve? This pleasant dream. Oh, I suppose you could. Um and I shall have pleasant dreams. Um and they will be interesting as well. Thank you. I will have nothing to do with it. At least not that sometimes. Well, I didn’t notice it before like almost a year ago. Not quite a year ago. Uh but I was looking at the star series and it started to dance. The stars dance. If I look at the stars, they dance. Now, maybe other people know this phenomenon. Sometimes it will simply be a matter of the idea of your eye motion creating that illusion. Okay. Okay. Okay. Sometimes it will be an aberration of the atmosphere as the light passes through it. Really?

Bashar: Yes. More often than not you will find that will simply be a nervous reaction of the eyeball. And I want to get back to few months ago you were talking about corn how both of this world and not of this world. It is a hybrid. And tell me if so it’s beneficial for us to eat it.

Bashar: There are beneficial things if you are aligned with certain frequencies. Yes. For individuals who may be going through certain processes that are not aligned with that frequency. No. It would be detrimental. But you are aligned. Thank you. Um and that is another very strong clue for another energy you can access from another angle altogether. Yes. I’m I’m um looking into eating, you know, like some corn comes deermed and be Yes. But we’re not really now talking about the corn specifically. We are talking about the energy that the corn symbolizes to you and has for many lifetimes. Yes. Any more clues in that direction? I feel I’ve got your concept. Starts with the letter K. Do you know it? Which do you prefer, Cacina or Kel?

Telepathy and Woodstock

Questioner: how do you scan the energy. I would like to scan energy. I would like to be telepathic.

Bashar: All of you are telepathic. Remember, telepathy is an vibrational identification. identification. The more that you are in love with all things, the more synchronous and harmonious you will be with them and you will know them. In that sense, then understand to love them is to know them.

That’s why we say it is not telepathy, it is telempathy. Tele vibrational Tele vibrational is a vibrational identification.

Questioner: It makes me want to already read to you my story of my interaction.

Bashar: You may do so at some time in the future. Fine. Number two, sure. Good day.

Questioner: I was watching uh probably a couple weeks ago and there was a a documentary on on the history of rock and roll. History of rock and roll. All right. Understood. And I saw the documentary footage of of an event called Woodstock. Woodstock. All right. Understood. It took place in 1969. Understood. Scanning scanning a human consciousness at that time. Could you sort of discuss or or or shed some some insights on what you thought that was all about?

Bashar: It was the beginning of a cycle that will have its polar opposite in your upcoming year. Of course, as you already know, 69 96. In other words, the idea is that as you began that cycle of energy back then of what you would recognize as freedom of choice will begin to play a much more important role in your realities in 1996 as you count time. There will be a further breakdown of many of the structural institutions around the world that are representative of lack of freedom of choice. Thus, 96 will be a pivotal point of acceleration of the breakdown of old paradigms and structures on your planet.

Questioner: I’m beginning to meditate more and uh trust my intuition.

I’m beginning to h have visions of being a young child, right? And there was this beautiful willow tree by our house. And I can remember now, I’m not sure if I’m seeing lights. I’m not sure if they were interactions.

I’m not sure if they were extraterrestrial uh meetings or something. uh meetings or something. You maybe what those they were interaction. And you are beginning to remember.

Spirit Guides, Reincarnation, and Family Patterns

Questioner: During meditation I got in touch um with the energy of a male child named Samuel that I 12 years ago. Oh yeah. And still acting as a sweet guy. still acting as a sweet guy. Still acting as a spirit guide.

I would like to know if whose energy has um come been reincarnated into a present life.

Bashar: The concept of spirit existence and incarnation is a simultaneous phenomenology. You will forever be capable of contacting the entity in spirit, even if they have experienced the concept of, quote unquote, reincarnation.

Because reincarnation is a fallacy. It is multiple simultaneous incarnations.

And every entity is its own discrete autonomous entity. It isn’t exactly the same entity having another life.

It is a completely new projection and creation of the oversoul, to which both of those physical entities belong.

So to answer your question, yes and no.

The entity is in fact 12 years old and still accessible in spirit simultaneously.

Wisconsin is where the child is—a boy of 12, right?

And um—um—one moment. Yes.

Although you may find that there is also another name.

We do not know if it is a family name associated with the first name of Samuel.

We do not know if Samuel is the last name, but there is another name associated that would be, in your vernacular, Toby.

Um—um—and when I make the contact with energy—um—stop.

Do you have in your culture familiarity with what you would call an art form known as comic book?

Do you have a favorite one?

Have you always had a favorite one?

Questioner: No, I I I know comic books, but I don’t currently I did not say currently necessarily. Did you have in your youth any particular attraction or affiliation?

Bashar: Attraction or affiliation?

I have. Yes.

What? Who?

It’s Calvin. It’s a little kid. Calvin and Tom.

Every time you thus read, you are making a strong connection to the incarnated Samuel and to the spirit as well.

It is a symbol being reflected by that entity as containing the appropriate vibration to make a connection between all three—you, the incarnated version, and the spiritual version as well.

Um, spirit will use any device that works, right?

And I know that I can now contact if I want—the connection.

The connection is always there. If you want to be aware of it, you can be. Exactly.

Um, the other thing that I would like to ask you is—um—in my own growth. Yeah.

Um, I had injected certain fears onto my dog, and she would get these eye infections.

And I had talked to you about an infection that I actually had on my eye—nice—that my dog was reflecting a couple of months ago that went away.

And um, in the last 10 days, my dog has got another eye infection.

This may simply be your repetitive methodology for seeing in a new way.

You may simply be using the same mechanism over and over again to see new things.

And the animal is reflecting for you that aspect of the energy that perhaps would manifest in you in that way were the animal not siphoning it off for you and allowing you to benefit from the more positive side of that mechanism.

Questioner: I had Gary who meology on me tonight. When he said that I was holding on to a dogmatic idea—oh, that was something of my older sister, I believe. That was something of my older sister, I believe.

Bashar: Which would be what? How do you feel about your older sister? How do you relate to her? What do you define your relationship to be to her?

In the past, as children, we had—we didn’t have a relationship.

You had some kind of—

It was—um—even if it involved never speaking, that’s the relationship. Yeah.

Um, I don’t want to go as far as saying it was painful, but we didn’t enjoy each other.

Bashar: You were displeased with each other, right?

Well, that—yeah. Intensely displeased.

And now in the present?

Yes. Um, we love each other and I feel a lot of joy being with her.

Is there any resentment?

She has been resentful of me. Yeah.

Are you resentful?

She resents you. I mean, I don’t feel I’m resentful. I might—

What are you then?

Um, yeah. That I’m hurt by it. I see it as—

In what way hurt?

Rejection. The rejection.

All right. Resentment, rejection. Why do you feel rejected? Do you feel rejected now? Are you saying that you feel rejected because of how she behaved toward you in the past?

Yes.

She no longer behaves that way toward you. Absolutely.

And I don’t feel rejected. I’m saying in the past that that is what I could have—

But you do not feel rejected now.

No.

Do you feel that she holds any resentment now?

Not that I am aware of.

And your mother. Is that a different story?

Questioner: Yes.

Part of it is that the sister does to some degree reflect some of the attributes of your mother to you.

You are clothing her lightly, but still doing it in the guise of your mother in certain circumstances where you are triggered to do so.

That is what you need to see.

That’s the dogma that is being—when, um, cosmology—I said to Gary, “If I’m holding on to any belief that doesn’t serve me, it would be a belief of my mother.”

So then, when you get in touch with that, you will then allow yourself more opportunity for more delightful, super—um—

Uh, here we are at the end of creation. One last thing.

The omega of existence itself.

Everyone pay attention. This is the last thing that’s ever going to happen anywhere at any time.

Questioner: Yes. Well, this is the last time you’re going to be in this moment.

So, what I am saying is—um—in high school. High school.

Um, are you talking about the one you all attend when you dream, or the one on earth?

Yeah, the one on earth. Yeah, the one on earth. Oh, all right.

Um, as a child, I always felt—I would feel—Yeah. Okay. Yeah. Okay.

Um, that I would wake up in the middle of the night and I would have a sense that there was something in the room, right?

And now I know that it probably was and still is.

And still is. Yes.

Um, and that experience always stayed with me. And so it stayed—and still it stayed.

In high school, I gave myself a pen name. Pen name. Yes. That writers use. Yes, I understand.

And so it was—or is—and I created a name called Tomorrow E. Fantis.

And what it stood for was the knowledge that there was always a tomorrow. The “E” was for eternity, and “Tomorrow” was to represent tomorrow, and “Fantis” was to represent myself as a dreamer. You mean Fanta C?

And that is the name that I wrote by.

And I just realized recently that I had that information at such a young age.

And I felt—you all do, but very often, no offense, your high school drums it out of you.

Well, this is what happened. I feel like now I’m going back to the knowledge—the real, the real, the real knowledge.

I school when you dream, and you all attend classes often in your dreams. Um, you might call it a re-education program.

Um, the thing is—I’m not—I’m—I’ve asked for conscious participation.

Bashar: You will eventually get it when it is appropriate to your own agenda. Okay. I have had the feeling. Yes. um that I have been impregnated and have had um hybrid children. Oh, you’ve had that feeling? Yeah. Well, tell me what does that feel like?

Questioner: It’s very strange because I I felt as if my body was pregnant.

And so, so it’s a disconcerning 230 feeling to feel that your body’s pregnant and then it’s not. Why is that disconcerting for me? I guess because um my life experience to have children and I haven’t previously all right had that but it gives you an opportunity to get in touch with the ones in fact that you have had that do not reside with you on the planet that you will meet again as many of you will. And can you tell me how many I have?

Bashar: There are variations of genetic material that have been utilized for the procreation of different hybrid beings. But in terms of the ones that contain the most approximation of your genetic material, the ones you would more or less recognize as your own. One moment. One moment. Remember, just as an aid and an assistance to you, we understand the process that you are in fact experiencing. At the same time, you can remember that everything going on in your life is a part of the orchestration that will eventually make sense to the you you are becoming. And as part of the overall orchestration, when you allow yourself to realize that, you will not become disconnected from your concert.

Self-Worth and Mirrors

Questioner: I have seen for a number of years out of the corner of my eye a woman in my large mirror in my dining area. I think she was at my other apartment in the same mirror, but I don’t remember. It’s been a while. And the interesting thing is that I’ve been thinking about this mirror because I had it made a certain shape. I think it’s eight sided. One, two, or you’re saying octagonal?

Bashar: Or you’re saying octagonal?

Questioner: I think that’s what it is. It’s either that or six. Pretty sure it’s eight cuz I they did it they did it incorrectly to what I told them but it turned out that it has a lot of I guess metaphysical spiritual meaning. So I guess it’s probably the eight one. Oh all right if you guess. Well anyway I had this little extra Oh I had it specially made. It’s like um had beveled glass and smoke smoking around the edge and mirrors are very strong trigger tools for the psychic energy of most of you to help put you in touch with the spirit realm. Yes. Well, the interesting thing is me in this, you know, being in metaphysics and having challenged, you know, and all that. Oh, all that. And I find that I’ve been afraid of this figure I see. So, I have pretend like it’s not there.

Bashar: What is it that you are afraid of?

Questioner: At the moment, I thought it’s me. Yeah. So, what are you afraid of within yourself?

Questioner: Well, I don’t know if it is me, but that’s the feeling I got, so I guess it must be. So, it is you. What are you afraid of? What are you afraid to see within yourself? Oh, lots of things like that. Oh, lots of things. Oh, all right. Name one. Well, on the positive side, I’m afraid to see myself work. On the positive side, I am afraid to see myself work. We have to take a moment to make sure that we had translated that correctly. Well, self worth being a positive thing is well. Yes, I understand. Okay. Love that. Why are you afraid to see your self worth? Or if I may really turn this around in another direction, if you’re afraid to see it, how do you know you have any? That’s the whole thing. Yes, I know. That’s the whole thing. How do you know you have any to see? Is that what you’re actually afraid of? That if you look for your self worth, you might actually find out you don’t have any. Is that what you actually mean? Oh, sure. Oh, sure. Oh, what? Why don’t I have to go to therapy now?

Bashar: You are in therapy, right, M?

That’s what I mean. It’s like that you just really hit the nail on the head. I am terrified. I have no value whatsoever to

Well, you know what? If that were fundamentally true, you and I wouldn’t be having this conversation because you wouldn’t exist. You’ve told me that once before. Yes. Of course, you have to tell it to yourself for it to have any meaning.

So, this woman, so why are you motivated to believe that you are unworthy?

Questioner: I don’t know.

Bashar: Yes, you do.

Questioner: I do know.

Bashar: Yes. What motivation? What do you get out of perpetuating a belief you don’t prefer? I can’t shine. I can’t. I can’t shine. I can’t. And if you don’t shine, then what? Is it all hinged on the idea again that you are afraid to find out that if you allow yourself to be you that still you will not be validated?

Questioner: I I don’t get that. I’m sorry. If you allow yourself to shine, are you afraid no one will see you? Are you afraid you won’t really shine?

Yeah.

Bashar: Again, same mechanism. But what motivates you to think that way? What do you get out of remaining in that state?

You must be getting something out of it, or you wouldn’t be motivated to be in that state.

Figure is comfortable.

More comfortable than what you think it will take to shine. Which means you have a definition that shining is difficult. Who taught you that?

I guess all the people that I’ve looked up to—you know, and respected—and thought were these great magnificent expressions of life—um—look like they worked damn hard and put a lot of effort energy into it, and were in the public eye all the time and judged all—I mean like all this.

So what attributes are you connecting to your ability to shine that are attributes you don’t prefer to have, but are assuming you must have if you shine?

Yeah. Never run that by me again.

What attributes did you observe in them that you think go hand in hand with shining that you don’t want to have, and think you have to have if you shine?

Because you can define shining however you wish to.

You don’t have to have attributes that you don’t prefer just because other people who shone had them.

I guess it’s all this damn hard work.

You know, years and years before they actually became these people that everybody respects.

And they’ve had a—you know, like you think of Lincoln—Abraham Lincoln—I mean, he lived poor and he went through all this hard stuff, you know.

He’s just like—and then finally he got respected and admired, you know—just anybody like that.

Why do you care so much? That’s the difficulty. You care too much—that’s what you think you need.

Asker: I care too much about those things—about being recognized.

Bashar: You don’t allow yourself to recognize yourself. Because you care too much about being recognized, right? That’s the paradox.

It is a paradox because low self-worth is the very reason why somebody would care so much about what other people think.

No. It’s the other way around. Caring too much about being recognized is what generates low self-worth.

Asker: Well, how do you break me? How do you break the freaking pattern of that?

The same way you break the fracking one. It begins with self-realization.

You get to the heart of the definition itself. You get to the understanding that you are motivated. It’s a choice.

Once you begin to understand it’s a choice, you begin to question what the motivation is for making that choice.

You begin to redefine your basic principle definitional parameters—your fundamental ones—about what you have given meaning to, and how you might like to change the meaning in everything that you know.

So you go back to zero. You grow up all over again. You raise yourself from scratch.

Start with zero blank. Nothing has any meaning. Zero. No meaning built into it at all.

Everything is neutral. Neutral. Neutral.

Then you decide from moment to moment. Each little thing, each big thing, each component you create, each and every detail you discover you have given meaning to.

Ask yourself if the meaning you have assigned is the meaning you prefer to assign, and start to recognize that only the meaning you have assigned is what creates the effect you are getting and the feedback you are feeling.

So zero it out. Flatten it all out. Neutralize it.

No meaning. Nothing means anything in particular. They are devoid of meaning. They are shells, props, illusions, ethereal fantasms of an idea, of a concept, of a notion.

And huh—listen to yourself now. Listen to yourself now.

You can only be experiencing what I am saying if you are creating me in your reality to say it to yourself.

So you are doing this. You are saying this to yourself. You are not experiencing me directly. Right?

You are creating your version of me in order to give yourself permission to be powerful enough to know what you know you want to be true.

You’ve said that to me once before—you said it to yourself. I’ve said it to you once.

I remember what you said to myself—that I feel like when I’m in your presence, I give myself permission to look at things in a different perspective than I normally do.

And the idea therefore is that you’re doing it. It’s your energy you’re feeling. It’s your presence, your feeling.

Whatever it is you are assigning to me is actually yourself, because that’s the only way you could be perceiving it in the reality you are.

Well, see, that’s great, because how I perceive you—which is a reflection of myself—we’re sitting here—is that I think so much of you and I have such love and such a bond.

And then—you do in fact think that way about yourself, but you have created a mechanism that makes it appear to be indirect. Right?

Allow it to be the direct mechanism it is.

The way you say you feel about me is the way at your core you actually believe to be true about yourself.

All you have to do is recognize that that’s what you’re doing.

It is a definition—and a definition of reality only—that makes it appear to be an indirect recognition of yourself through me, apparently.

Now allow it to be a recognition of yourself transparently. Transparent.

Not through me apparently, but of yourself directly.

Transparently, without needing to put it in something else. Yes.

Without projecting it out there to me, because there’s nothing out here.

This is a mirror. A mirror.

Reality is a perfect mirror. Perfect. 100% perfect mirror—a perfect reflection.

What that means is there’s nothing out here.

Just like a glass mirror contains none of the light. It’s all reflected back. That’s why there is a reflection—because the mirror holds on to none of it. It directs it all directly back at you, showing you who you are, what you are, what you look like.

So that’s what this is. You are looking in a mirror.

If you see me and you see that I am capable and I am loving and I am confident, you are looking in a mirror.

All you have to do is wake up to that fact.

And you will recognize that everything you have ever felt about me, you feel about you.

And that is true. Just as true as anything else you have ever felt.

It seems for me that I only allow myself—

It does not seem anything—you choose.

Okay, that’s—that’s—I have allowed myself only at certain circumstances, at certain times, to be able to see that. Yes. Yes. Yes.

But there you are. You have solved it in that sentence: “I have only allowed.”

Well, if that’s true, which it is, then why not allow something you prefer?

Because when you recognize that it is because you have allowed it, you are in control of what you experience, and therefore you can experience what you prefer by allowing that.

So yes, I have—I have—

You want to keep talking to yourself. Go ahead. That’s fine.

I’ll talk to myself. I do it a lot.

Um, I have explored these concepts at different times, different levels. Yes.

And I found—and I found—that still you are choosing, choosing, choosing.

There is nothing—nothing—nothing any of you do but by choice.

It is that you can create in your reality what might appear to be an unconscious choice.

But once you recognize the reality—once the reality is being reflected back to you by the perfect mirror of nothingness around you—it is conscious. No longer a habit.

So why does it seem so hard and scary to me?

Because it’s your definition. Because it’s your definition. It’s your definition. It’s your choice of definition.

Why does the sky look blue? Why does any object look the color that it does when you hold up a red glass or a blue glass or a yellow glass and look through it?

Why do things look yellow? Why do things look red? Why do things look blue?

So, you’re saying I’ve defined this process as something hard and scary.

Exactly. And that’s all it is—is a definition.

But a definition is reality. Right.

Therefore, it has weight. It has solidity. It has momentum. It has inertia. It has parameters that you have allowed it to have because of your definition.

But that’s the only reason it has them. There is nothing inherently real about the circumstance. It is only definitionally real.

But that’s what reality is. Yeah.

I remember a long time ago you told me that because it was my work situation—you were saying that the only reason that it was that way is because I believed it was like carved in granite. It had to be that way.

Nothing’s carved in granite. Nothing’s carved in stone. Nothing’s carved anywhere, right?

Except in your consciousness. Except in your consciousness.

That’s so funny—because the reason I brought up the lady in the mirror is I wanted to bring up something light and not as heavy as the other thing I was going to bring up.

And it turned out to be—

This is all made of light.

Watch your definition. You have just given it right there. Wait. Right.

You have just defined this as heavy.

This is a very light conversation for us.

Oh, and by “us,” I mean you and I. Then believe in it—by believing in yourself.

Relationships and Wholeness

Questioner: I’d like to know if you could give me some information about relationship with Jeff.

What do you define your relationship with this Jeff individual to be?

At the moment in a state of breaking up or having broken up.

Bashar: Is that one of the 50 states of your country? Perhaps the 51st.

Questioner: Perhaps the 51st. I think it’s a state of relationship.

Bashar: What is it that you have learned about yourself in the relationship? Because that’s what the relationship is for. That’s what all relationships are for. To learn more about who you are and become more of yourself. So, what have you learned about yourself in this relationship?

Questioner: That I have been operating a great deal of not conscious time.

Bashar: All right. Is that something that you prefer to continue to do?

Questioner: No. All right. Thank you very much. Are you now saying that you have the opportunity to recognize that there are different things that you may prefer than you used to?

Questioner: Yes. Do those things that you now prefer make it seem that the relationship as it was is now more incompatible. Well, that’s where it’s confusing for me because in what sense?

Bashar: In what sense?

Questioner: Um, there are certain things about the relationship that were definitely have definitely been not comfortable, not pleasant, not enjoyable. Yes. So, there are other things that show up periodically about the relationship that are absolutely phenomenal. Do you know what the word holistic means?

Bashar: Yes. Do you not think a relationship should be holistic?

Questioner: Yes.

Bashar: The idea is that you can certainly serve each other by reflecting to each other the opportunity to become more of yourself and to change should each person in the relationship choose to change. But you can also arrive at a recognitional level in any relationship where you might in fact recognize that the vibration of one individual and the vibration of another individual is no longer synchronized. If you come to a place where you recognize that you have gone beyond your preferential level of reflectivity in helping the other individual have time to change or get in touch with what they need to get in touch with to make certain changes to become more harmonious. and you’ve gone beyond that threshold, then your duty to yourself and your duty to the other individual. And your duty to the relationship truly out of love is to be your true self and allow the consequences of that truth to allow the relationship to change in the way that it must change, which is the way it will actually serve all the individuals involved. And to recognize that an individual relationship that does not contain things that are representative of your preference and does not contain an opportunity to work with those things within the threshold of your preferential modality is not a holistic relationship. Anyway, if you are not you and that individual is not who he is in truth, you’re not in a relationship with him anyway. You follow? So, the idea is to recognize that if that individual did change to become more synchronized and harmonious with your preferences and vice versa, you wouldn’t really be the same people anyway, would you? Right? So, what difference does it make whether it’s actually physically another person that comes into your life or not? Because if another person comes into your life and they are reflective of an energy that you feel more compatible with, believe me, you won’t care that it’s not Jeff. Right? You understand? You understand? Be yourself or there is no relationship any. And if that individual does change, he is a different person.

Questioner: And that’s what’s been happening. He has been changing a great deal.

Bashar: Then what is your complaint?

Questioner: That he’s changing. He’s becoming more of who I really want him to be with, but he’s saying that he doesn’t want to be with saying that he doesn’t want to be with me.

Bashar: And do you prefer someone in your relationship who says they don’t want to be with you?

Questioner: No.

Bashar: Then that is something that is outside your preference. And it is a lesson for you to get in touch with the idea of how to unconditionally love yourself and allow your reality to reflect to you by attracting it to you an individual or individuals who would in fact want to interact with you. You follow? But obviously this is bringing up issues for you that are allowing you to get in touch with programmings and things that have been implanted within you since childhood. The reason why you have attracted an individual that you love so much who appears strongly underlying that word appears to be rejecting you is because you have an issue with rejection and that’s what that individual is unconditionally lovingly helping you to realize because that’s what you need to work with to become whole. You follow? Yes. If that individual did not point that out to you, you would be acting in a relationship in what you typically call a dysfunctional manner, having someone who was only there to reinforce all the things that don’t represent the way you actually want to be as a whole person. So, it is serving you to have someone do this to you at this time because it’s putting you squarely in touch with an issue that you need to integrate in order to become more holistic and therefore the relationship is working perfectly because that’s what relationships are for. He is actually being a friend even though he may not know it.

Questioner: Oh, I yeah, I know. And I and even though you may not know it, I I do know it.

Bashar: And again, the paradox and the point is is that as soon as you allow yourself to get in touch with the energy that is being pointed out to you in that way, it is possible that once there is no longer a reason for that energy to be sent to you that way because you’ve integrated it, you might change. But don’t expect it because again, it won’t matter whether it’s him or not. The idea is that you will become a more whole vibration. You will thus automatically attract all situations that are more reflective and more representative of the whole vibration you are being. Remember, if you believe negatively that you need someone else in order to be more complete, then you only attract individuals to reflect to you your belief in your incompleteness. It doesn’t mean that you cannot learn and grow new ways and new things in a relationship. But the paradox is is that you have to allow yourself to know you are whole fundamentally in order to attract someone who can be willing to reflect back to you the willingness to work toward the recognition of that wholeness.

Questioner: I’ve I’ve known this intellectually. I get this coming to get it experiential.

Bashar: If you have not known it intellectually and experientially both, you have not yet known it. Allow yourself to know you haven’t known it because that will remove a big burden off your shoulders thinking that just because you’ve got it intellectually you are supposed to understand it on all other levels all at once. You know it or you don’t know it. And that’s all there is to it. And if you don’t know it, let it be all right to say, you know, I don’t know this. I don’t get it yet, but I will. It’s all right to not know. Most of you will actually paradoxically find that most of your troubles would vanish overnight if you would just let yourselves be all right with saying, “I don’t know this stuff.” Then you would stop working so hard at thinking that you’re supposed to. And then you would just live. And then just by living the experiences you have when you’re in that kind of open honest state would actually allow you to know more than you know. You follow? Mhm. Is this help?

Questioner: Is this help? Yes, it is.

Bashar: To learn to love yourself unconditionally enough to allow what is going on in your life to be all right as it is. So that what is going on in your life as it is can be transformed by you into a way that is more reflective of your knowing self. You understand?

Questioner: I believe so. You don’t let what is, however it’s happening, be all right, be the thing that needs to be happening, be what it is, and learn from it in the positive way you want to by assigning a positive reality meaning to it. So that regardless of anyone else’s intention toward you, the only effect you will get out of it will be the positive impact of the meaning you have assigned to what is going on. Because you have to know fundamentally that what is going on is there to help you learn to love yourself as unconditionally as the infinite. Does this make sense?

Questioner: Yes. Remember again as was said before that everything you have just heard you have said to yourself. You follow? You follow? Mhm. It’s up to you to decide whether you believe it or not. One moment. Is there a place that you are most excited to be?

Questioner: A physical place?

Bashar: Yes. A location?

Questioner: I’m not sure. I’m I’m actually at the moment right now looking for a new place to live and um I’ve been a bit confused as to what I want.

Bashar: Perhaps because you are not looking in the place that really excites you the most. Is there a place, a position, a local on your planet that you would rather live live on the planet? Is that too big for you?

Questioner: Well, kind of cuz I’m um I’m really focusing in in a direction with my acting career and everything feel like I need to be here.

Bashar: Here is Los Angeles. The idea is that there are many different realities even in the city that you call your city of angels, right? Are you looking in the area that is reflective of your joy and your preference? Or are you, how do you say it, making do?

Questioner: I’ve been making do for Where would you prefer to be?

Bashar: Where you resonate? Where does your heart, your joy, your creativity resonate?

Questioner: On a sound stage.

Bashar: Then we’ll build on the theater. You know what I’m asking?

Questioner: Yes. In terms of what you might call your residence, is there any particular local that you prefer in your city of angels more than any other? And are you looking in that local?

Questioner: Well, I’m enjoying living and I’m not Is that your place of highest excitement? I don’t know where my place I don’t think I’ve fully known or experienced where I see.

Bashar: Then we have a homework assignment for you. Take time and enjoy it in the taking.

Sit down, moment of pause, and allow yourself to discover where in the city is the most exciting place.

And be open without expectation to allowing yourself to suddenly realize that the place you would find most exciting to live might not fit any of your expectations.

But if it is the most exciting, moving in that direction is what will unexpectedly allow you to fulfill anything else in your life that represents your highest joy and excitement.

For again, without expectation.

Many times circumstances and situations that excite you—you don’t have to necessarily assume that just because they excite you right now and pull you in a certain direction, that it means any particular thing in terms of how it is that that must ultimately play out.

Just by making that move in that direction.

So if you find yourself all of a sudden being excited, for example, to go look somewhere even outside the limits of your city, but that really is the most exciting thing—go and take a look.

Don’t be resistant to the excitement because of your assumption that you can’t do that, because you think it means that you have to go live there.

The fact that you may be being pulled in that direction by your excitement may simply mean that you only have to spend a day being in that energy.

And that may all of a sudden unexpectedly allow you to run into the most unusual people at the right place in the right time that you never would have met.

That may in fact be the easiest path of least resistance and least effort in opening the door to the other things that excite you in life.

Because it is excitement that is connected. It is excitement that is representative of your path, not the surface details of what you think are supposed to be connected.

Asker: The vibrational frequency that’s been uh raising in my body. Yes. And uh um I I find it very difficult to assimilate in my body and I’m I’m not that’s because there is resistance to yourself, right?

Bashar: Resistance to loving yourself. You are in that sense creating a dichotomy. You want to express more of who and what you are but you are afraid to because of how you define the idea that that’s connected to pain. Redefine. Redefine. You are an actor. Become the part you prefer to play. You are on the stage right now.