Soulmates

Audience Member: I have been married for 9 years all right and my husband um a little over 6 months ago decided he no longer wanted the responsibility of being married and being a father and my daughter.

We are now in a transitional State oh all right and wondering where we’re going all right namely will I find my soulmate in this lifetime well I’ve already been with several

Bashar: Soulmate is a broader definition than you all think.

Any individual you’re interacting with at any given moment must, by definition, be your soulmate for that moment. They are the one you need to be with at that moment, obviously—or you’d be with someone else. So, in a sense, that is one definition of a soulmate.

All relationships are for the purpose of allowing you to learn what you need to learn about yourself, and by being of service, to allow the other individual to learn what they need to learn.

Everyone is simply a reflection—in different ways and to different degrees—of other individuals they interact with.

If you are looking for an individual that represents ecstasy, joy, spontaneity, and creativity—I assume this is what you usually mean when you say, “I’m looking for my soulmate”—correct?

Be those things by yourself. Be the complete relationship with yourself that you are. Then you can attract an individual into your life to reflect those things you are being.

Sometimes the idea that you need that soulmate in order to be happy, because you don’t believe you’re complete without it, means you’re usually going to attract an individual to reflect your belief in your own incompleteness.

If you know you are complete within the relationship that you are, and simply would like to express a sharing of equals with another individual, you can attract an individual who functions on an equal vibratory plane to share with as an equal.

Not because you need them in the classical sense, but because they are you and you are them—because you are reflecting identically to each other the joy, the ecstasy, and the completeness you know you are.

When we say “complete,” that doesn’t mean:

• you’re not going to grow or change or learn
• that you are finished

Being complete simply means you know and trust that if you are—in your terms—doing the best you know how to do with integrity, then you are completely whatever idea you are being in that moment.

Whatever idea you are being in that moment is absolutely equally valid to any other idea you have ever been or will ever be.

It stands on its own as its own idea. It is not worse, or judgmentally better in an invalidating way, than anything else you have ever been.
It is different. It can be more expansive; it can be grander in scope and perspective—but it is equal, equal and complete as what it is.

If it changes, it is something else. It is not a “better” this—it is different. It may be more conducive to the way you prefer to be; it may be more representative of that—but it isn’t a better “this.”

It’s something else, because you, every time you change, are a different person—literally—because a person is your artificial projection of an idea you’re being at any given moment.

So now you are being given an opportunity—an opportunity, in this sense, to fully feel the totality of your being.

If that individual has definitions within their reality that make them believe that responsibility is a matter of burden rather than freedom, then you have attracted into your life an individual that, now that you have reached a certain point of understanding, simply no longer complies with your frequency.

By definition, they must go their way, because they may still be working on something—or are working on something different than you.

But this gives you an opportunity to recognize that you have changed as well.

Therefore, you can allow that change to be representative of the ideas you desire to become.

In becoming those new ideas—those expanded ideas—you will then attract whatever individuals are representative of whatever level you are willing to have the conviction to express in your life.

The stronger the conviction, the more willing you are to represent the fullness of who you believe yourself to be—then the more reflective the individuals you attract into your reality will be on that level.

If you are simply fully willing, at any given moment—whether you are finished learning or not (which you never will be)—but if you are willing to express the fullness of who you are at any given moment with absolute trust, then you usually wind up attracting an individual who will reflect it right back to you.

That is usually what you refer to as a soulmate: the one you made an agreement with to reflect to you when you were operating on full.
When you have the willingness to believe in yourself utterly—even if you are not yet the definition you prefer to be—you still trust that you are operating in the capability of becoming that idea.

All you need to do is find out what it is that represents the excitement in your life and do it act on it with Integrity because excitement is the vibration that represents who you are that’s why you do get excited about things because what excites you is who you are act on it trust it it will support you

The Planet “Demus” — Other-Dimensional Connections

Audience Member: Is there indeed a planet we would call Deus and are there Souls incarnated on the Earth plane from that planet at this time for the purpose of observation of some sort

Bashar: We are unfamiliar with the terminology of that name will you define it in terms of location and your understanding

Audience Member: I have a friend who thinks she may be from this planet. It’s evidently a planet that’s been discovered since I’ve been out to sea I work on ships I haven’t heard anything about it

I’ve asked people and uh she at first thought people were approaching her and telling her she was from Venus and then she read or heard somewhere that there was a planet discovered recently called Deus do you have a spelling

Bashar: I think it’s demus or demius. The only idea that we can make a reference to through what we understand of your society’s knowledge would perhaps be the idea of one of the Martian moons but that was already known by all of you mhm there has been no planet in that sense that has been discovered in what you might call your astronomical sense by any of you I see for the idea of any other planetary body not within your own solar system at this time is beyond your technological capability to perceive

Audience Member: Yeah I believe it supposed to have been in our solar system

Bashar: Then you are perhaps discussing an idea that is in another dimensional plane I see and in that sense what you might be referring to are in your terms psychic or telepathic recognition rather than the idea of physiological Discovery now one moment one moment as far as we can perceive at this time and this may not be in your terms a complete picture for this energy seems to be somewhat coming in from a tangent what we can perceive of the connection that is being referred to may be as follows in what you would call your past in other civilizations upon your world there were an influx of incarnations from other planets and it may simply be a general representation reference here and there to other civilizations but it is our perception that this may represent In general the overall influx of incarnation from other systems at certain times in your planetary history

Audience Member: I see to which this individual May belong to one of those influxes

Bashar: All right well thank you very much well thank you now One Moment One Moment if that individual in a centered meditation will simply flow with feeling not analysis but just feeling and reason not forsaking reason but not overly analyzing flow with a vibration they think represents that connection within what you call approximately the time frame of three of your weeks they can attract further information that will help clarify that connection into their lives

Emotional Crisis, Sleeping Pills, and Reclaiming Trust

Audience Member: last Saturday night I um yes took a whole bunch of sleeping tablets and I was just it was just like I was going to the refrigerator to to uh have a glass of apple juice or something and I just took them thinking I was going to you know go to sleep and the reason that I did that was because I would I’ve under the past 3 or 4 months I’ve been just under a real emotional decline to where um I was just becoming totally functionless yes and um it’s kind of a long story but the that’s all right I’ve got the whole picture okay the trigger for me doing this yes was that I thought that I had become so intensely emotionally negative and insecure that my boyfriend was going to abandon me because I knew how intense and negative I’d become and I know that’s not my real self because I’ve I’ve seen me as another person

Bashar: Oh yeah it’s all right now any self at any given moment that you choose to be is your real self because you can create your persona to be anything and anything you created to be is real and by the way any vibration of emotionality you are feeling right now is helping you to release and balance and Center yourself so don’t worry about the tears you know what you are doing and you are processing just fine however the idea of the sleeping pills May simply have been symbolic and representative of the fact that you are finally becoming tired of trying to be someone you’re not

Now have you allowed this experience to let you finally give yourself permission to be who you prefer to be

Audience Member: Yes yes I’ve noticed some changes already I’ve I’ve noticed incredible changes it’s almost like it was I had to force myself to hit rock bottom in order to get out of the block

Bashar: We have noticed that many of you on your planet are very clever in using that technique many many times you will have bought into belief systems so strongly that the only way you will allow all avenues to be equally up is to hit dead bottom or what you think is dead bottom however now that you have allowed yourself to go through the void you have now brought the power of Creation with you for you were willing to face yourself and make a decision to continue with the life and to know that you are empowered you took yourself through the death you are on the other side in a sense the old you did die and a new you is now in existence with an utterly new present and an utterly new past and an utterly new future because whatever you are in the present is what creates your past

So now are you willing as the new you to Simply know that you can do the things that really excite you in life and that those things really will support you

Audience Member: It’s all right if there’s still some doubts I I have I have doubts because I don’t trust like I I said I don’t have enough trust in my emotions I’ve been all right I went through

Bashar: All of you have always used trust. You trust perfectly in your emotions. It’s simply that you trust more in the negative ones than the positive ones. You trust implicitly.

It is simply that you are choosing to believe that your emotions have a mind of their own. That’s your choice to believe. That’s your definition. It is your definition that seems to give them independent power.

They don’t have independent power. You are utterly controlling them on your strings—utterly. But you have created a definition that allows the strings to be invisible to you, so that you think they have a life of their own, and do not notice the connection between the movement of your hand and the movement of the puppet that you are calling the emotion.

Start noticing that they only move when your hand does. In other words, the emotions only flare up in that sense when you believe most strongly in making the choice that they can act autonomously. Then the strings become invisible.

As soon as you understand, “Wait a minute—I am empowering them. They get their power from me. They don’t have any other source. Therefore, I must be choosing to activate them in that way.”

Why would I want to choose to activate them in that way if I don’t prefer it? Why would I choose that scenario? It must be something I believe in. It must be a definition I bought into.

Do I prefer this definition? No. What definition do I prefer? This one.

Then, since I know my definitions are what have created my reality, I can assume that my new definition will create a new reality—because it’s always worked that way. You have always used that mechanism. You have never not used it.

You function flawlessly. You always get what you most strongly believe you will. And remember: fear is a strong negative belief, and it empowers itself in that sense through you.

Anytime you put most of your investment into one particular point of view, it’s going to generate a self-perpetuating cycle of expansion—a negative spiral or a positive one. It doesn’t care. It only takes its orders from you.

You believe in negative or positive emotionality? It doesn’t care. You make the choice to believe, and when you make the choice, that’s what you get.

So it isn’t, as you say, running amuck. Remember that even if it seems you are out of control, you are creating that situation. So you’re in control of creating the illusion that you’re out of control. You always control it. It can’t be any other way.

There is no other source of energy other than the energy that comes through you to empower anything that has to do with you. It doesn’t come from outside. There is no outside. It cannot act on its own.

Listen to the belief system I will say. I understand intellectually—because everyone knows that is different from understanding emotionally.
Why? Because you define it to be different.

If you know you understand at all, why not assume you understand as you need to, instead of continuing to believe in the segregated definition of understanding it intellectually and understanding it emotionally?

Belief in the segregation is what creates the feeling that there is a segregation in your understanding.
Believe that when you understand, you do understand on all the levels you need to.
And that the idea of levels in and of itself is your creation.

You really are not composed of levels.
You are one thing—one Consciousness.

So take it for granted when you understand something at all, you understand it—period—on whatever scope, in whatever perspective you need to.

If you simply relax into the notion that you understand it, that relaxation will allow you to begin to experience, in concrete terms, that you do in fact understand it more completely than you originally thought you did.

Bashar: It’s not that complex you’re making it more complex than it has to be as simply as I’m stating it it is that easy may I ask you a question

Audience Member: Yes thank you do you believe that things have to be difficult in order to be valid

Audience Member: Up to this point my life has proven so because my life has been very very I’ve made my life very very difficult

Bashar: All right next question do you wish to continue to believe

Audience Member: No well

Bashar: Here’s the fine line and here’s how your Society usually chooses to Define these things.

I don’t prefer to believe that things need to be difficult in order to be valid.
And usually the next question is: “So how do I make them easier?”
You don’t.
You allow them to be easier.

You allow them to be easier by understanding that once you have the ability to conceive of how you would prefer it to be, your ability to conceive of it is the manifestation of that reality.
That’s it.

You don’t need any long, involved process in order to make what you have conceived come true.
The conception is the reality.

All you have to do is act like you know that.
Trust that if you have the ability to conceive of it, you are it.
The second you are aware of any way in which you wish to be, you are—even as you imagine that way—creating that vibration in your life.
That vibration means you are, at the moment you’re conceiving of it, living that way.
Just start acting like that person from that moment forward.

Say: “Well, what would the person I prefer to be believe in? What types of belief would the person I believe I wish to be have within them?”
They would believe this, not this.
They would believe this, not this.
They would believe life is easy.
Believe it. It’s just as valid.

Your society is in the habit of invalidating one phrase over another phrase because of what it thinks is experiential evidence that one phrase has more validity than another.
But that experiential evidence, so to speak, that the negative occurs more often than the positive, is only because you originally had that belief. All you’re doing is reinforcing the original belief with experiential evidence.

Remember that the situation in your life does not occur before the belief. The belief exists first.
Then the physical reality is experienced, which can reinforce the belief. But the physical experience didn’t create the belief.
The physical experience comes into manifestation to bring to the surface—to a conscious recognition—what may have been an unconscious belief.
But it was a belief first, nonetheless.

So once you have the physical reality and you recognize, “I don’t prefer this reality,” it’s there to show you that you had a belief that that was the most likely reality you could manifest.
Therefore, it gives you the opportunity—not to believe you’re stuck with it, not to believe you’re a failure—but to show you: “Look, this is what you believe. If you don’t prefer it, what would you prefer to believe?”

As soon as you redefine it, your physical reality says to you: “I’ll match it. I promise. I guarantee you. I can’t do anything else.”
That’s what physical reality is about.

Audience Member: I’ve been able to do that with some things

Bashar: Then use those as examples and apply them over the entire scope of your reality. No situation is inherently—now pay close attention to this—no situation is inherently more difficult than any other situation. Only your definition of that situation makes it seem to be more difficult than another situation.

So get involved in clarifying your definitions of why one circumstance would seem to have to be more difficult to accomplish than another one.
Understand what you believe that makes it seem more difficult.

Once you have clarified why you believe this is more difficult than that, then it won’t be. You will allow them to be equal.
You will understand the definition you have bought into, and you can rewrite it. And as soon as you rewrite it, it will replace the old definition automatically. Just live as if it has done so, and you will get the effect in your life that it has.

It is a simple mechanism. Let it be that simple and easy.

one of the greatest—I’ll say “shocks,” not meaning it in a negative way—one of the greatest shocks to your overall society, collectively and individually, will be to allow yourself to finally discover that what you have always thought of as a fairy-tale attitude is actually the way life works. Believing is seeing, not seeing is believing.
That’s how I know the reality to be.

Then act like you know it. You know, because of the pressures of society, everyone tells you you can’t be like this.

Audience Member: I just freak out whoo

Bashar: There are no pressures in society that you can feel if you don’t buy into them. Just because other individuals may choose to send pressure doesn’t mean you have to sign for it. Send it back.

I do not mean send pressure back—simply don’t accept the charges. You don’t have to. You are your own reality. They are their reality.

Whatever they choose to send you, you can look at it, examine it, say: “All right, well, I like this. I don’t prefer that.”
Accept what you prefer. Send the rest back.

There is no pressure other than the pressure you buy into. Your reality—you have to accept it. You have to believe it belongs in your reality in order to feel the pressure. If you don’t believe it belongs in your reality, you won’t feel it. It will be what you call a non sequitur—it won’t relate to you.

“What do you mean you don’t like my orange skin? I don’t have orange skin. That doesn’t relate to me. You must be talking about someone else.”

Anything that doesn’t belong in the reality you have defined you prefer will be that much of a non sequitur.
You simply won’t understand that they’re referring to you.

Audience Member: I have a question concerning some other people that I know was one of the causes

Bashar: They are not the cause

Audience Member: I know I’m My Own Creator. But I’m still confused and I haven’t been able to let go right um it was some people who took I lived with for a number of years and um they helped me out of a very very negative life-threatening situation and um kind of nurtured me and then I was in a very serious accident and I got a bunch of money and it’s still going on that’s one of the pressures

Bashar: It is not a pressure. It is a situation as neutral as any situation okay the meaning you give to it determines the effect you get out of it positive meaning in positive effect out negative meaning in negative effect out the circumstance itself has no meaning it is blank devoid of meaning empty neutral zero zip so continue

Audience Member: I was on disability for a long time work this conversation and the people here we go again pressured me to give them a whole of money and they took more and then they got to my lawyers and they some negotiation yes they were able to get a whole bunch more against the pi case and it left me in a situation that I was penniless

Bashar: But you are infinitely abundant.

Audience Member: I know but I don’t understand I put so much trust

Bashar: One Moment. Because of what you are discussing with me now it is very obvious that you believe in the ability for other people to pressure you.

Audience Member: Well I did

Bashar: And that’s what you got you got an absolute reflection through your trust in negativity of pressurizing

Audience Member: But I thought it was positive

Bashar: It can be positive if you allow it to be you can always transform anything in a positive way all we are saying is not surprising that it happened because then you obviously believed in the idea that individuals could pressure you so obviously you attracted individuals that would reflect to you your strongest fear that’s the service they did you now if you understand you no longer need that then you will allow a flow of infinite abundance to once again come into your life and if you simply understand that you have to buy into the pressure then next time someone offers you the idea of the pressure you won’t give them your money to buy it you will not pay for it you will not buy it

Audience Member: The understand yeah I understand the confusion in my brain is that whether it still comes up as to whether I’m the wrong one or they are because no one

Bashar: Is you are both co-creators of the situation if it has presented to you a circumstance you no longer prefer get in touch with your act your part in co-creating it redefine yourself and move on then you will simply put yourself in a position and create an atmosphere around you where you can allow there to be the conduciveness of the flow of your abundance and you will be a totally different person having absolutely no more relationship to the idea of a history that belongs to someone you no longer are literally no one is right or wrong and if you stick around to try to determine that you are continuing the invalidation and the pressure mhm it is not a matter of being right or wrong it is a matter of learning to be what you prefer to be and you are being given an opportunity in the circumstance to no longer believe or buy into certain beliefs you no longer prefer so don’t continue to buy into them redefine them move on you’ll have another reality plain and simple

Audience Member: Mhm all right

Bashar: You are doing just fine relax you are learning in the way you have agreed to learn you can change it it’s but you’re doing just fine yeah remember that your confusion and disorientation are simply forms of meditation that you are also judging to be negative confusion fusion with more of yourself depression is simply meditation judged it is when you withdraw to the center of your being to get the answers you know you need because you know they’re not outside you do not automatically assume that what you typically call confusion and depression and disorientation in your Society have to be intrinsically inherently negative things give them a positive meaning and you’ll get a positive effect out of them MH they are all different forms of centering of meditation

Audience Member: And so how would I find self-security because it boils down to you are secure insecure with myself

Bashar: You are secure the idea of believing in insecurity is again doubting the power that you are you don’t have to find it be it act like you know that you are infinitely abundant and connected act like you know you have the ability to make decisions and that your reality will stick to your decision act like you know no one can force anything on you if you know no one can force anything on you what’s there to be secure about why do you need protection if you know you can never really be attacked or abandoned remember as one of the individuals in your Society once said you can say the word alone as alone or you can say it as all one so if you prefer to believe you’re abandoned you will say alone if you understand you are always connected to the infinite you will say all one how can you be abandoned

Pre-Life Agreements and Channeling “Nemus”

Audience Member (Andre): if you’ve made an agreement with two other people and two of them are willing to keep it but the third one isn’t what happens?

Bashar: There is a lot of leeway within the general idea of what may be called an agreement it does not always translate into an absolute specific type of interaction the agreements that you make prior to what you call physical life can be to some degree specific but they will usually be representative of General themes that you will play out and an individual even within the light has the leeway and the free will to play out the overall agreement in any number of different ways either within Integrity or outside of it you can still find an individual involved in the particular theme that you have agreed to play out

Do not assume that they are not fulfilling the general agreement even though they may not necessarily fulfill the specifics that you perceive to be representative of the agreement or one way the agreement could be fulfilled do you wish to delineate the particular specific situation you are describing

Audience Member: Are you familiar with an entity called nemus

Bashar: By a general energy stream but not necessarily by a specific as it may manifest through different individuals on your planet for it can be changed according to the Persona to some degree that funnels connection with that energy

Audience Member: I’m not sure he has said that his he would be known by another name

Bashar: Yes the idea once again is simply to understand that all beings all levels of consciousness that make associations with any other level of Consciousness the being they make an association with will always be able to translate in their own terminology what they believe the original Consciousness to be it can appear very different from being to being as they may relate their connection to the same Consciousness it still can be representative of the same overall Consciousness but it may appear very different and so the vibration will be to some degree different from Individual to individual as they have a personal relationship with that particular energy

Audience Member: MH but if the three of us have made an agreement and one backs out what happens to the

Bashar: What is your definition of backing out

Audience Member: Not doing it

Bashar: In what way not doing it not completing it in what way your definition of what may represent completing it may not be a definition necessarily or the only definition of completing it what is your specific definition what is the scenario

Audience Member: Oh well like that the person would allow the that is doing the channeling would allow the energy of this nemus to to come in yes as she had agreed

Bashar: All right and if they do not feel for some reason that they are ready right is that not allowed

Audience Member: Yes but then what happens to like say me in my part of the agreement what happens to it

Bashar: Yeah what is your part in it

Audience Member: The facilitator and um you know setting it all up

Bashar: And yes are you willing to assist that individual because you are excited about the idea

Audience Member: Overall I it’s what I really want to do

Bashar: You are willing to be of service to the individual right then allow yourself to be of service by assisting them to get in touch with the trust and the unconditional love they may need to understand to allow them to feel comfortable in letting the energy come through the idea is that if an individual seems to be in your terms backing off then obviously there is something within them they need to come to terms with right be of service in that way and allow the individual to come to terms at their own good timing you cannot force them and at the same time you can recognize that that doesn’t necessarily have to be the only individual the energy comes through

Audience Member: Oh okay now may I ask you a question yes please do well thank you can it come through you

Bashar: Um not well see what I do I hear it

Audience Member: Yes I hear it in a different way so telepathic so which I’ve always done yes so well no one’s going to listen to me

Bashar: What no they won’t why not

Audience Member: Because what people are into now is channeling and what they want

Bashar: One moment it’s true one moment I know what you’re saying however the whole idea is for individuals to become self-empowered and recognize that you are all always channeling and that channeling is simply allowing a flow to occur without worry

Audience Member: Now I know that I’ve known that for a long time all right and I have been able to do that cuz I hear and see entities all right and always have

Bashar: Then why is that not sufficient

Audience Member: Because what I have observed yes is that what people want when we’re doing this is like when she does yes so if I would say the very same thing which I could do yes they give no validity because I’m not in a trance and because I’m

Bashar: One Moment One Moment true yes it is true but it’s true because you attract individuals that fit your belief that no one will give you validity because you’re not in trance that’s the only reason it’s true but so how can I by having the boldness to understand that your way is just as valid

Audience Member: Seems to me not meaning to be derogatory here at all that there’s more hesitation on your as well as the other individual’s Parts equally really

Bashar: Yes so all you’re getting is a chance to work with someone who’s exhibiting the same degree of hesitation that you are oh what a wonderful reflection for you what a wonderful opportunity to validate the way you are and to understand that if you are that way then obviously there must be some individuals the way you do it will serve hm for every individual that is willing to express who they are there will always be an audience but if you don’t believe it then you won’t Attract it and then it won’t be so obvious but it’s only not obvious because of your belief that the way you do it isn’t valid and can’t be of service that individuals won’t accept it

Audience Member: I know what you mean however let me remind you and everyone present right now that the way you are experiencing this channeling even though it may have begun for the purpose that you stated the main purpose of this channeling in the way it is being done is to put itself out of a job right to render itself obsolete right so that each and every individual know they have the accessibility you already know you have right therefore if you are bold enough to be one of the first examples of that why hold back

Audience Member: Well I I probably do have a fear

Bashar: Yes obviously obviously but don’t worry about it if that is the way you really are if that is truly representative of the way you flow you will find individuals who will be able to allow you to be of service to them while they will be of service to you by allowing you to recognize that you must by definition fit into the overall reality and therefore for every sender there must be a receiver

Audience Member: Understand yeah but my greatest fear is that they won’t realize I’m receiving all right or is that is that

Bashar: But you can tell them you are

Audience Member: I know but but what what I really do see that they give twice the validity to if if someone’s in a trance I could say EX

Bashar: We understand that that for now is seemingly the majority attitude upon your planet so but when will it change right when you change it that’s when it will change when you take the first step to present it in a format that they can get used to as being just as valid if you don’t give them the opportunity to see any other way it will take longer for them to realize there are other ways

Audience Member: H um yes so could you give me some help in what to do how to do it cuz obviously I don’t know what to do

Bashar: Oh obviously you do it is simply that you are not willing to act upon it you know how to present the idea that you have access to information can be of service to individuals it doesn’t necessarily have to be something that comes with banners and horns and lights the idea simply is is that you offer your services to assist as a reflection to all who may require it in that way you don’t even have to necessarily Define per se how the information is coming just be involved in a dialogue with whoever is attracted to your willingness to quote unquote as you say advertise that you are willing to engage them in a self-reflective dialogue that will allow them perhaps to see things they need to learn about themselves

Audience Member: I do that to one degree right now

Bashar: Well then well I want it to be more than that well it can be as soon as you validate your methodology as soon as you do not see it as limited it won’t be okay you will then be able to be one of the examples that creates the change

Audience Member: Okay somebody has to right might as well be you okay well thank you could you tell me about the two crystals that have just that I have

Bashar: The no no you have the ability to know everything you need to know

Audience Member: Do I about those two large crystals that have come into my awareness

Bashar: Remember simply that they are triggers catalysts to awaken Reflections within you to yourself